Showing posts with label Hair Styles. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Hair Styles. Show all posts

WHY YOU REMEMBER YOUR HAIR BEING DIFFICULT TO HANDLE (FOR THOSE WHO FEAR TRANSITIONING)



Want to transition but fear that your hair would not be as soft as the Naturals around you?  Here are 5 reasons why you remember your hair being dry, hard and difficult to handle.

1. No deep-conditioning: As a child, I can't remember anyone taking the time out to deep condition my hair. At the time, the only hair type that got that preferential treatment was relaxed hair (remember placenta? ^.^). The sad part is that today, most relaxed ladies in Nigeria don't even get their hair treated (steamed) in salons or  at home by themselves. This could be the reason why a lot of us have hair that never seems to grow.
Black hair needs to be moisturised because it easily gets dry; no thanks to weather and a few other factors.

What has changed?
Now Naturals know that deep conditioning keeps the hair moisturised for long periods of time so we don't joke with this part of hair care.

2.Combing: Back in the day, the combs used to comb our hair had little spaced bristles (rat tail comb). Even with tears streaming down your face, the stylists wanted smooth/knotless hair and smooth/knotless hair they got.  Using the wrong type of combs to detangle our hair means that a lot of us have bad memories of our hair being hard and difficult to handle. Stories of black hair breaking combs and crying spells during hair grooming sessions are popular amongst Nigerian (African) women.
What has changed?
These days, we stick to using the wide tooth comb and some naturals on youtube have done a good job of showing us how we can do without using a comb by finger-detangling our hair. You can show your stylist how to do this or you can find a salon that has stylist(s) who know how to take out the knots of your hair without causing damage. Remember, less manipulation = length retention.



3.No emphasis on conditioning: As most Nigerian women know, more emphasis was and is still placed on getting the hair clean without putting much thought into conditioning. So for instance, your hair will be washed 2-3 times and conditioned once with little or diluted conditioner.

What has changed?  Now we understand that the pH of shampoos causes the cuticles to open up. If the hair is not properly conditioned after shampooing, the hair cuticles stay that way when it gets dry, causing it to feel rough and dry. With this knowledge gained, we know that we can get better results by washing our hair once or twice with a shampoo/bar and following up with a THICK rinse-out-conditioner like Vo5 to close our cuticles and end up with soft , smooth hair. Remember that to have manageable afro hair, emphasis should be placed on conditioning and not just cleansing.

4.We got re-united with black soap: Yes, we totally forgot about the benefits of black soap and fell hard for imported shampoos. While I have nothing against shampoos, I have observed that they can leave black hair feeling hard and dry.

What has changed?
Quite a number of us have found the goodness that is black soap again. I used the word 'again' because our great-grand mothers used this soap to wash both hair and skin but for whatever reason most of our mothers and salons did not use this on our hair (for those who knew black soap, it was strictly for the skin). Unlike most shampoos you will find, African black soap leaves afro hair feeling soft during and after washing.

5.Much love for the LOC method: Taking care of natural has progressed from what you used to know. Among others, you will hear terms and techniques like finger detangling, low heat tension method, and my favourite; the LOC method (click on link to read more). These new techniques have made taking care of natural hair easier and cheaper. Yes, cheaper because you can do most of them by yourself; saving you the cost of frequent salon visits.


So now that you know, please go head and take the steps you need to get healthy hair. If you prefer your hair being relaxed still do your research by visiting other natural hair blogs and sites because what most of us preach is healthy hair and most of the techniques that work for natural hair will work for chemically treated hair.

HUMIDITY, SHRINKAGE AND MY NO-COMB REGIMEN


The weather in Abuja has been very confusing. One day harmattan, next day extreme heat, and before you know it rain is falling. Two months ago, when the weather changed from dry harmattan to humid, I got braids done to allow my scalp breathe. But because my hair is past shoulder length, I could not make the braids short. My scalp could breathe but having the braids brush against my neck was very uncomfortable. For this reason I had to put the braids up most of the time but that made my neck hurt as the wool used for the braids made the bun too heavy. Solution? Shrink and LOC.
SHRINKAGE (Short Hair)
Since cutting my hair is not an option, I decided to work with the gift of shrinkage. Natural hair is known to be able to go from BSL to chin length in seconds. Thanks to water and water based hair products I could get the perfect length for the season without using scissors.
LOC METHOD
The LOC method is a method used to keep hair soft and defined for as long as possible. Here's how it works:

YOU TOO CAN DIY

Knowing I won't always be around my junior sisters I taught all 3 of them the basics of hair care (washing, braiding, twisting, threading, safe flat ironing, deep conditioning etc) This has taken some of the responsibility for their hair off me. In the past I did everything for them even when it was not convenient. Now, I only help out when it is absolutely necessary.
Here are pictures showing their first twists which were done solo.
 
                   I was so proud to see both of them working in sections I had to  take pictures

Notice how stretched out their hair is? Well they both decided to use a hot iron. Being the over-saby that I am, I remember not being in support. But hey, its their hair so I held back on all the do's and don'ts and let them do their thing...while secretly monitoring them *.^
End Result


EXTRA BENEFITS
Last month, I had a cut on my finger and could not braid my hair that was already washed and ready for styling. So for the first time, I let one of my  students plait the braids for me while I watched a movie. Below are the results
Week one
  I wanted the twists to be loose and frizzy so I did  most of them by myself.



 

 Week 3 (playing around with my simple style)
I was really impressed with her work so when she comes back from school, I will try to get her to braid a bit more often so she can perfect her skills.

So what do you think? Good teacher, awesome student?

HAIR TALK: THE EXTREMELY LAZY NATURAL II (YOUR RESPONSIBILITY)

Picture from CN2

After reading the first Part I some of you might ask...
What exactly is my hair care responsibility? 
The fact is that most of us grew up with other people taking care of our hair. In Nigeria where labour can be cheap, getting someone to wash and style your hair can be easy. Our mothers might have been the ones to wash our hair  but most times than not the responsibility of styling and maintenance was someone else's job. This sort of slipped in as a habit and now that we are  older, a lot of us are still over dependent on hair stylists who sometimes know very little about afro-hair care. 
I have met women who think it is tight fisted or broke ladies who wash their hair by themselves. Its no wonder why a lot of us actually rock severe 'iya iyabo' like it is a style that has always being in season.
If you can give yourself a bath each day, then please work up liver to take some responsibility for your hair. 
Since we all know that a lot of our hair stylists know next to nothing about kinky or permed hair it is our responsibility to:
1. Educate them or direct them on what to do with our hair, and
2. Take proper care of our hair first before letting them style it.

To elaborate more on this, two extremely laid back naturals have given me the permission to share the error in their ways. 

ELN #1: Ms P

I met Ms P in 2012 and we have stayed in touch since then (you know how naturals connect easily). 
Three weeks ago, she called me to come style her hair. We agreed on a date, which was tight for both of us, but knowing how our schedules where we decided to stick to the plan. On our appointment I was so disappointed to find her with damp hair that was tightly coiled at the roots because it was not properly stretched. We met at 12:00pm and she was to go to work by 2:00pm!! Her excuse was that she came back very late from work the previous day and could only wash her hair early that morning. Harmattan had gone so there was no way she could have air dried her hair and be ready for our appointment by 12:00pm.
We attempted to quickly blow dry her hair but when I started braiding, the
roots did not look neat at all (sorry, I forgot to take a picture)

Solution:
Instead of braiding and leaving her with rough hair, as it was not my fault (na so our hair stylists dey reason na) I decided to smooth her hair and thread it so that when next we meet styling would be easier on both parties.

         RESULTS
Ms P wanted the style I had recently done for EnKay so we did hers with a slight twist :)


ELN #2: My Sister


Believe it or not this really is my sisters hair. Yes, all four of us seem to have different hair textures but that is no excuse for why her hair looks the way it does.
Now, this yeye girl  decided to wear her hair out like Resane Babalwa of Sisterhood. When she got back home, she did not moisturise and braid or even thread to keep the kinks protected....no....not my sister, she went straight to bed like that. I refused to wake her up because I have this suspicion that I make my sisters hair lazy. They take care of their when in school but when they are around me, its like they don't even try. Its seems like my 'hair talk'  is only to be applied in school and never at home.
Back to my madam, by the next morning, I had to restrain myself from telling her what to do but by evening I couldn't take it any more. I sat her down, sprayed on some water, patiently detangled, and braided her hair. The funny part is that detangling was not as difficult as I expected. I then proceeded to give her the LumoNaturals henna mix treatment I had promised her. 
This child needs to start paying me, because she keeps saying "when you are here nko? why should I bother?" 
No be her fault sha, there are dishes I do not eat until she is around:)
Why are my stressing both ladies?
Simple, I have told them times without number to take care of their hair before sitting down for me or anyone else to style their hair. Why?

1. Time: When we refuse to take proper care of our hair, we spend a lot of time trying to smoothing out kinks that could have taken us a few minutes to stretch.

2. Knots and Breakage: The results of poorly maintained natural hair. Keep the knots away by properly detangling and stretching natural hair after washing and before sleeping (when you wear the fro out)

3. Slow growth: Your hair would take a longer time to get to your desired length if it keeps breaking off due to neglect.

4. Wastage: I had to take four trips to Ms P's, no thanks to her care free attitude towards her hair. I mean, she could have washed her hair days before I came. Abi? (one love Ms P :))

5. Frustration: Unkempt natural hair can frustrate both you and the hair stylist - who might know very little about your hair type and its needs. Keep those tears at bay, take care of ya hair ya self :)

6. Cost: Both of this ladies are my people, but if they were clients best believe I will charge them double for their negligence.


My Opinion...
While it might be someone else's job to style your hair, it is your job to take proper care of it. Know your hair texture and what it responds to. With the knowledge at your finger tips it will be easy for you to tell others what you want instead of complaining.

HAIR TALK: THE EXTREMELY LAZY NATURAL I


          Nigerian Hair styles in the 60's
Hi People!
First of all let me start by setting the record straight: I am not a professional hair stylist o, I just know how to braid natural hair. That said, lets proceed to the topic at hand.
When most of us hear about going natural, the first thing that comes to mind is "hard work". Some of us get past this thought while others battle till they give up. For an intro, I will describe both ladies mentioned under 2 categories: The Enthusiastic Natural and the Extremely Lazy Natural

Enthusiastic Natural
These category of ladies have decided to go natural but they dread the time, energy and resources that go into the process. Instead of dumping the idea and/or sticking to what they have always known, they discuss their hair problems with friends who started their journeys before them, visit natural hair blogs, and try out styles and products, so they can find the regimen that works just right for their life style.

Extremely Lazy Natural
The others, who I'm focusing on in this post, have decided to go natural but can't really be bothered with anything apart from the vision they have of themselves with big hair. They admire natural hair styles, can not wait to spot that big fro... but the wahala of learning about hair textures and techniques is just too much for them. After many frustrations, they finally learn to wash their natural hair properly and maybe learn a few easy dc treatments along the way but that is where their adventure stops. They can't be bothered with stretching,they get frustrated with styling and sometimes resolve to weaves/wigs for the most part of their short journey. Lastly, they can be  the biggest critics of salons and stylists.
While their assessment of some hair stylists might be true (to some extent) the cause of their hair troubles rests on their shoulders.

End of Part One 

Part 2 coming up later in the day

NatM Asks: What Category do you belong to? Do you have friends or relatives that are extremely laid back? And how do you encourage them to be independent?


Hair Talk & Hair Inspiration

Remember what I told you about threading before visiting the salon? Here is an example.
 The lady in the pictures has a very sensitive scalp so pulling on her hair to create straight lines was definitely out of the question
  
 To reduce the pain she usually experiences during plaiting she...
  • Sprayed water on a section of her hair
  • Applied Natural Nigerian Leave in Detangling Conditioner
  • Combed and
  • Threaded
By the next day her hair was soft and ready for plaiting.
  
Don't be fooled into thinking she has fine hair o...She has tight curls and what some of you call 'stubborn hair' (the type that breaks combs). But with proper preparation sectioning was not a problem at all.
Did I mention that I absolutely love her hair color?

Simple Protective Styles For Medium Lenght Natural Hair

Hi ladies,
*Having problems styling your newly acquired growth?
*Can't put your hair in a bun without your hair at the crown area sticking out? ...
Then this post is for you. See below for three simple styles that you can rock and be creative with.

STYLE 1: THE GODDESS BRAID
 
MsDanti's goddess braid is one of my favorite styles. I rocked this a lot when I had medium length hair and still do. the great thing about this style is that you can wear it to work and it can last for a whole week with little maintenance. 

 STYLE 2: THE FAUX HAUX TWISTED UPDO
 Check out Ropo's twisted up. Using Expression kanekelon braids or Noble kinky extensions you should be a ble to pull this off in no time.

STYLE 3: GODDESS BRAIDS (with cowries )
Also using Expression kanekelon extensions, Vlogger Ami Fullest shows how to do 3 neat braids on her kinky natural hair. I know most of us are not very good braiders so my advice is that you get an expert to help you out if you are still struggling to get firm braids. 

TODAY'S HAIRSTYLE

When I newly went natural, I thought that protective styles had to look like...
  
this....                       ......this
  
......this                                  ....or this. 
But now that I have bigger hair and less time on my hands, sitting down once every month -for 6hours or more - is becoming inconvenient.
Yesterday, I woke up with dull looking hair and was in no mood for head wraps or mini twists. Buns were also out of the question but I knew that I had to do something with the mane.  So I sat in front of the mirror, moved my hair from side to side and came up with what you see below. I did one didi plait (french braid) at the back and tucked the end into the braid. I then made little box sections, smoothed the roots with a gel made by Natural Nigerian and then twisted. After I was done with that, I used the same gel and a brush to smooth down my hair, pinned down the twists and tied a satin scarf. Some minutes later, I took it off and out I went.


  My friend thought I had taken a scissors to my hair again :)

How much time did it take me to style my hair? 40mins! Win!
What you see in the picture above is my hair after running around under the sun in very humid weather (Abeg where that sun wey commot for Abuja come from yesterday? Chei!)My hair still looks neat and I plan on carrying it for 3 more days.

Here is  another simple style I did for my little sister some time ago. If I can't think of something new, I'll be wearing this next week.
  
 

Anyone care to share some simple styles with us? Send pictures to eskinks@gmail.com or give me a description in the comment box below. It'll be fun trying to re-create what I can't see.

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